The four men who hacked an atheist to death near Coimbatore city in Tamil Nadu were angered by a WhatsApp group he had started, investigators said on Sunday. The accused had asked the Dravidar Viduthalai Kazhagam member to suspend the group after he had shared a photo of his children holding slogans – Kadavul illai, Kadavul illai, Kadavul illai, which means No god, No god, No god. The 31-year-old was found dead near the Coimbatore Corporation’s sewage farm on March 16.
The police said the perpetrators, who were daily wage labourers, wanted H Farook to take down the group called Allahu Murdhath, which has 400 members from various districts in the state. His refusal to do so might have led to his death, the police told The Indian Express. “There were both personal meetings and multiple phone calls from them as a request and a warning,” an unidentified police office told the daily. “He [Farook] ignored them and went ahead. Finally, it was his public statement of raising his children atheists had provoked them.”
The police have constituted three teams to look for the accused, who they believe are hiding in the suburbs. Two of the four absconding men are related to the Bangalore blast accused. However, the police have ruled out the possibility of a terror angle in the case. After the murder, the police had said that Farook’s anti-Muslim views had angered people. “This may be a possible motive for murder,” Coimbatore Deputy Commissioner of Police S Saravanan had said.
As our parents grow older, our ‘adulting’ skills are tested like never before.
From answering every homework question to killing every monster under the bed, from soothing every wound with care to crushing anxiety by just the sound of their voice - parents understandably seemed like invincible, know-it-all superheroes all our childhood. It’s no wonder then that reality hits all of a sudden, the first time a parent falls and suffers a slip disc, or wears a thick pair of spectacles to read a restaurant menu - our parents are growing old, and older. It’s a slow process as our parents turn from superheroes to...human.
And just as slow to evolve are the dynamics of our relationship with them. Once upon a time, a peck on the cheek was a frequent ritual. As were handmade birthday cards every year from the artistically inclined, or declaring parents as ‘My Hero’ in school essays. Every parent-child duo could boast of an affectionate ritual - movie nights, cooking Sundays, reading favourite books together etc. The changed dynamic is indeed the most visible in the way we express our affection.
The affection is now expressed in more mature, more subtle ways - ways that mimics that of our own parents’ a lot. When did we start parenting our parents? Was it the first time we offered to foot the electricity bill, or drove them to the doctor, or dragged them along on a much-needed morning walk? Little did we know those innocent acts were but a start of a gradual role reversal.
In adulthood, children’s affection for their parents takes on a sense of responsibility. It includes everything from teaching them how to use smartphones effectively and contributing to family finances to tracking doctor’s appointments and ensuring medicine compliance. Worry and concern, though evidence of love, tend to largely replace old-fashioned patterns of affection between parents and children as the latter grow up.
It’s something that can be easily rectified, though. Start at the simplest - the old-fashioned peck on the cheek. When was the last time you gave your mom or dad a peck on the cheek like a spontaneous five-year-old - for no reason at all? Young parents can take their own children’s behaviour available as inspiration.
As young parents come to understand the responsibilities associated with caring for their parents, they also come to realise that they wouldn’t want their children to go through the same challenges. Creating a safe and secure environment for your family can help you strike a balance between the loving child in you and the caring, responsible adult that you are. A good life insurance plan can help families deal with unforeseen health crises by providing protection against financial loss. Having assurance of a measure of financial security for family can help ease financial tensions considerably, leaving you to focus on being a caring, affectionate child. Moreover,you can eliminate some of the worry for your children when they grow up – as the video below shows.
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