The song “Tujhse Naraaz Nahi Zindagi” from the Shekhar Kapur film Masoom (1983) fetched lyricist Gulzar a Filmfare trophy. The soundtrack by RD Burman won him a Best Music Director. The only person left out from the picture was singer Anup Ghosal.
Ghosal was already a popular singer in Bengali films, having made his debut with Satyajit Ray’s Goopi Gyne Bagha Byne (1969). Burman introduced him with the solo number in Masoom. But Ghosal’s debut was fraught with uncertainty from the very beginning.
When HMV, the record company, got wind that the soundtrack did not feature too many saleable names, they were reluctant to release the album. They asked the producers to record another song. The production did not have the budget, but they did manage to ask Lata Mangeshkar to sing “Tujhse Naraaz Nahi Zindagi.”
Mangeshkar’s voice was as popular as always, but fortunately for Ghosal, listeners warmed up to his version too. His voice had Kishore Kumar’s levity but also depth reminiscent of Hemant Kumar.
The song flew off the charts and established Ghoshal as a rising star. But it was a brief flash. Ghosal sang a disco ghazal for composer Bappi Lahiri in Shapath (1984) and a few other songs that didn’t give him the popularity of Masoom.
“Tujhse Naraaz Nahi Zindagi” remains Ghoshal’s only successful foray into Hindi film music, an everlasting melody that has immortalised his voice.
As our parents grow older, our ‘adulting’ skills are tested like never before.
From answering every homework question to killing every monster under the bed, from soothing every wound with care to crushing anxiety by just the sound of their voice - parents understandably seemed like invincible, know-it-all superheroes all our childhood. It’s no wonder then that reality hits all of a sudden, the first time a parent falls and suffers a slip disc, or wears a thick pair of spectacles to read a restaurant menu - our parents are growing old, and older. It’s a slow process as our parents turn from superheroes to...human.
And just as slow to evolve are the dynamics of our relationship with them. Once upon a time, a peck on the cheek was a frequent ritual. As were handmade birthday cards every year from the artistically inclined, or declaring parents as ‘My Hero’ in school essays. Every parent-child duo could boast of an affectionate ritual - movie nights, cooking Sundays, reading favourite books together etc. The changed dynamic is indeed the most visible in the way we express our affection.
The affection is now expressed in more mature, more subtle ways - ways that mimics that of our own parents’ a lot. When did we start parenting our parents? Was it the first time we offered to foot the electricity bill, or drove them to the doctor, or dragged them along on a much-needed morning walk? Little did we know those innocent acts were but a start of a gradual role reversal.
In adulthood, children’s affection for their parents takes on a sense of responsibility. It includes everything from teaching them how to use smartphones effectively and contributing to family finances to tracking doctor’s appointments and ensuring medicine compliance. Worry and concern, though evidence of love, tend to largely replace old-fashioned patterns of affection between parents and children as the latter grow up.
It’s something that can be easily rectified, though. Start at the simplest - the old-fashioned peck on the cheek. When was the last time you gave your mom or dad a peck on the cheek like a spontaneous five-year-old - for no reason at all? Young parents can take their own children’s behaviour available as inspiration.
As young parents come to understand the responsibilities associated with caring for their parents, they also come to realise that they wouldn’t want their children to go through the same challenges. Creating a safe and secure environment for your family can help you strike a balance between the loving child in you and the caring, responsible adult that you are. A good life insurance plan can help families deal with unforeseen health crises by providing protection against financial loss. Having assurance of a measure of financial security for family can help ease financial tensions considerably, leaving you to focus on being a caring, affectionate child. Moreover,you can eliminate some of the worry for your children when they grow up – as the video below shows.
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