In Shyam Bengal’s Hari Bhari (2000), Ghazala (Shabana Azmi) vocally asserts control over her body, her struggles representing the many ways in which religious laws oppress women. In Shamas Nawab Siddiqui’s Miyan Kal Aana, Shagufta is eerily silent, but her internal strife is equally emblematic.
Imtiyaz (Jai Hind Kumar) divorces Shagufta (Manisha Marzara) in a fit of rage, but now wants her back. However, as per the Islamic marriage practice Halala, he cannot remarry her until she has been married to and divorced by another man. He pays a local mullah (Ilyas Khan) an exorbitant sum to marry his wife and consummate the relationship with her on the condition that he will divorce Shagufta the next day. But trouble ensues when the mullah refuses to let Shagufta go.
Filled with pregnant silences and normally comforting domestic sounds that ring with dreadful menace, Miyan Kal Aana is a critique of the undue impact of religious laws on women.
Produced by actor Nawazuddin Siddiqui (the director is his brother), the short film is available for viewing on the YouTube channel Magic IF Films.
As our parents grow older, our ‘adulting’ skills are tested like never before.
From answering every homework question to killing every monster under the bed, from soothing every wound with care to crushing anxiety by just the sound of their voice - parents understandably seemed like invincible, know-it-all superheroes all our childhood. It’s no wonder then that reality hits all of a sudden, the first time a parent falls and suffers a slip disc, or wears a thick pair of spectacles to read a restaurant menu - our parents are growing old, and older. It’s a slow process as our parents turn from superheroes to...human.
And just as slow to evolve are the dynamics of our relationship with them. Once upon a time, a peck on the cheek was a frequent ritual. As were handmade birthday cards every year from the artistically inclined, or declaring parents as ‘My Hero’ in school essays. Every parent-child duo could boast of an affectionate ritual - movie nights, cooking Sundays, reading favourite books together etc. The changed dynamic is indeed the most visible in the way we express our affection.
The affection is now expressed in more mature, more subtle ways - ways that mimics that of our own parents’ a lot. When did we start parenting our parents? Was it the first time we offered to foot the electricity bill, or drove them to the doctor, or dragged them along on a much-needed morning walk? Little did we know those innocent acts were but a start of a gradual role reversal.
In adulthood, children’s affection for their parents takes on a sense of responsibility. It includes everything from teaching them how to use smartphones effectively and contributing to family finances to tracking doctor’s appointments and ensuring medicine compliance. Worry and concern, though evidence of love, tend to largely replace old-fashioned patterns of affection between parents and children as the latter grow up.
It’s something that can be easily rectified, though. Start at the simplest - the old-fashioned peck on the cheek. When was the last time you gave your mom or dad a peck on the cheek like a spontaneous five-year-old - for no reason at all? Young parents can take their own children’s behaviour available as inspiration.
As young parents come to understand the responsibilities associated with caring for their parents, they also come to realise that they wouldn’t want their children to go through the same challenges. Creating a safe and secure environment for your family can help you strike a balance between the loving child in you and the caring, responsible adult that you are. A good life insurance plan can help families deal with unforeseen health crises by providing protection against financial loss. Having assurance of a measure of financial security for family can help ease financial tensions considerably, leaving you to focus on being a caring, affectionate child. Moreover,you can eliminate some of the worry for your children when they grow up – as the video below shows.
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