‘Music from that summer will undo me’: Stephen Colbert on losing his father and brothers as a child
The late show host spoke to TV news anchor Anderson Cooper about grief, loss and growing up with it.
"I was personally shattered, and then you kind of reform yourself in this quiet, grieving world that was created in the house."
— Anderson Cooper 360° (@AC360) August 16, 2019
Comedian Stephen Colbert opens up to @andersoncooper about grief and the death of his dad and brothers in a plane crash when he was 10 years old. pic.twitter.com/dUnc5CXSs5
Late-night show host Stephen Colbert opened up about dealing with the loss of his father and elder brothers at a very young age, in a conversation with news anchor Anderson Cooper.
Cooper, who lost his father when he was ten, also lost his mother recently and broached the subject, saying, “We don’t talk about grief a lot. People aren’t comfortable talking about it. One of the things I found in the last two months since my mom died, is people coming up to me on the street or reaching out to me on Instagram or wherever and sharing their loss, and their grief with me. And I found that the most helpful thing.”
Colbert, the youngest of 11 brothers, lost his father and the two brothers closest to his age when he was ten, in September 1964.
Speaking about the incident, he said, “There’s another guy. There’s another Steve Colbert, there’s that kid before my father and my brothers died and...It’s actually kind of difficult. I have fairly vivid memories from right after they died to the present. It’s continuous and it’s contiguous, but there’s a big break in the cable of my memory at their death, and everything before that has got an odd, ghostly tone.”
“They died on September 11, 1974,” Colbert continues. “And the music from that summer leading up to it...will undo me, in an instant. The song of the summer was Band On The Run. Do not play Band On The Run around me.”
Talking about dealing with death as children, the two men described how loss had shaped their relatively untainted world views at the age of ten. While Colbert escaped into science fiction, Cooper said he became a catastrophist – plunging himself into extreme activities convinced that he would find and fight death before it found him.
A clip of the video posted on Twitter received over 1.5 million views over the weekend. Several social media users, in turn, shared their own stories of loss and grief.
I’m glad you found your way forward
— Penny Parkin (@Pennypark) August 17, 2019
I am sorry. You are right. Love does not go away. The loss doesn't go away. You just get used to it. I think of myself as a quilt that got ripped or torn and I am now sewn up and the rip is repaired but you can still see it/feel it if you look closely.
— UnChatUnChat (@CriUnChatUnChat) August 18, 2019
Man !! I have had so many losses in my life - I guess we all do. Death is as much a part of the human experience as is birth. I lost my youngest son, Henry, at 9 years old in 1992. I have been a shell of the human that inhabits this body before that fateful event.
— H. J. (@ORnative56) August 17, 2019
Wonderful share thank you. I also lost my father when I was 15 & I left school and left home because of it and how it effected me. I love my life today & therefore accept the sadness of the past as part of the journey. Btw @StephenAtHome @colbertlateshow and you are my fav peeps!
— simon squibb (@simonsquibb) August 17, 2019
This made me cry. My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly in May, leaving my 10 year old son without his Daddy. As hard as it is for me, my heart breaks for him that he had to experience this at his age. Thank-you both for sharing and I am so sorry this happened to you. ❤️💕😢
— 🇨🇦S.Mills🇨🇦 (@seanamills) August 17, 2019
Thanks to both of you, for this interview. I too lost my dad at the age of 8, by suicide. That moment, like yours, defined who I was to become. I had more in common with the Stephen's reaction. I too dove into Sc-Fi books and stories. But, also took on some risks as a young adult
— American Hombre 🏳️🌈 🇵🇷 (@RealNativeTaino) August 17, 2019